People spend their lives trying to find a way to be happy. Look no further. I offer you the secret key to happiness right here. Ready? Here it is:
“Lower your expectations.”
That’s it. You want a more detailed recipe? Okay. Here it is:
“Continually lower your expectations until they drop below the threshold that can be met by reality.”
That’s all you have to do to be happy. Reality offers you a limited range of possibilities for a mate, career, lifestyle, and so forth. Accept it. Expect no more than you can obtain with your best effort and you will be happy.
If you want to be unhappy, expect to be filthy rich, win a Nobel prize, and marry a supermodel who will act like a porn star in your bedroom every night. I guarantee that you will make yourself feel miserable that you’re merely middle class, respected by only some of your colleagues, and married to a nice woman who wants a normal sex life.
Don’t do that to yourself.
As long as you can look at yourself realistically, you can be happy.
That’s hard to do in America. You are constantly bombarded with media that demands that you raise your expectations to unrealistic levels. Every advertisement tells you that you should have more than you can afford. Every sitcom and drama shows people who have more exciting lives than you do. Every reality show insists that any average person with minimal talent can be an international celebrity. And sex? You don’t need porn to raise your expectations. Mainstream TV, movies, and music videos show everyone having great, kinky sex with young, beautiful partners all day and night.
No wonder you’re unhappy. Reality can never give you what the media makes you think you should have.
It’s not easy to lower your expectations to realistic levels. You’re going to have to work hard at it. And not just once, but constantly. Every day the media tries to raise your expectations to new heights in new ways. So, every day, you’re going to have to find some way to lower them again.
Will this make you happy?
It will if you lower your expectations for happiness as well. Don’t expect to be ecstatic. Try to be just happy enough to be happy.
You can do it. I know you can.